It wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized I had spent the bulk of my life doing what others thought would be good for me. As a kid, I worked hard to be a “well-rounded” student. I went to the highest-ranked university I could get into. Growing up, all I ever wanted to be was a teacher, but I majored in engineering, because my favorite teacher told me that becoming a teacher would be a “waste of my brain.” I graduated and got a well-paid job. After that, I moved on to a job that paid even more. My bosses at that job told me I would need to get my Masters in Business Administration to get promoted, so I started applying to schools.
For one application, I was required to answer the question: What matters to you most, and why?
I realized that the true answers were the ones that immediately popped up from my heart when I first read the question, before my brain could weigh in on how those weren’t the proper answers. I could feel the true answers in my gut. And they had nothing to do with what I was doing with my life at the time.
Attempting to answer that question redefined what I believed would bring me happiness in this life. Since then, I’ve been on a continuing journey of introspection and personal growth. This blog is a compilation of lessons I learned while trying to maintain self-sufficiency, satisfaction, and sanity. It also includes the challenges I still grapple with today in trying to create a balanced, fulfilling, and happy life.
To learn more about how I can coach you through a transition to a more fulfilling career, visit my website at http://whatifyoucould.be
If you’d like to hear more about my story and the advice I would have given my undergraduate self, check out my presentation to UC Berkeley’s Partnership for Pre-Professional Pilipinos (P4) on March 14, 2011: